Laughing is real as well as love. This is the natural condition that is available to everyone.
If you notice that when you laugh, you are relaxing and enjoying the moment, then you have made your own experience of a “love moment”. If you feel something good about yourself or others, that is love. If you smile about something or listen or help somebody else, these are real expressions of love. However, everybody has different ways of experiencing love according to our culture, family origin, past experiences and learning process. Love is learning, just as any other skill which needs to be nurtured and taken care of.
When we learn another language, we learn how to think, act and communicate differently, not only with the grammar but also with the heart. It’s in this way that we become connected with the new language and make it real in ourselves and in our communication with others. If we learn any activity like art, meditation, computer, yoga, writing, public speaking, running a marathon, riding a motorcycle, singing, etc., we can see our dreams reflected in that activity. We interact with our achievements and efforts and we enjoy them. We learn, we make our dreams true vs. merely imaginary, and we give them form and add meaning to our lives because it is real.
Furthermore, if we invite our heart to be more aware that love is real, we flow with pleasure facing the challenge, and we empower our courage to reach deep happiness. We also develop new ways to create our own model of Love.
Love is real because it is tangible through what we do with it. If we create bad experiences in our life, we need to stop for a moment and think about whether we acted with love in that moment.
Love exists even when we don’t feel it, because it is around us and within us. We do not need somebody to tell us, “I love you.” We just need to listen to our own heart to know that.
We expand and extend our expression of love when we make it more and more real.
How can we start?
1. Listen to your heart when somebody tells you, “I love you.” What happens?
2. Tell yourself more often, “I love you.” What happens?
3. Tell somebody else, “I love you.” What happens?
When we learn how to give and receive love, we learn that love is real. We do not need to create virtual reality to feel it; it’s there and available in our reality!
Happy Valentine’s Day!
Laughter and Love,
--Ana and Tom
