We do not create losses in our life. Each loss has something for us and brings us personal meaning, but every loss also holds something to exchange with us. We lose many things in our life: school opportunities, jobs, relationships, money, close friends, family members, our house, health, dreams, hope, faith, etc. When we have any loss, we suggest that before doing anything about it, stop for a moment and ask yourself the following five questions:
- How am I doing with this? (Physically, mentally, emotionally energetically and spiritually).
- How was I doing before this happened?
- How was I doing in the moment when it happened?
- How do I contemplate hope in my own way to deal with this?
- How can I create an exchange for this loss?
Part of our journey is
learning how to respond in crises confronting losses from our family
and dealing with our own spiritual and personal growing.
Nevertheless, each of us experiences losses and we go through them
with our own resources. Thinking or reflecting about the top
questions can help you to create space for your loss before doing
anything. You may not need to answer each question; maybe just let
yourself go through your own process.
When you create time to be
present with your loss, you bring to yourself the meaning from this
particular loss. The way you grieve offers you valuable
understanding. When you are ready to move forward from you loss, you
are ready for the exchange.
I call it an exchange in
losses when your awareness is open to feel peace and hope, and you
flow with the transition. You can receive, for example, a new job, a
new dream career, new relationships, different ways to embrace
yourself with the loss and be grateful.
Find the meaning of your
loss and let yourself go thorough you own process; it will guide you
to see the exchange. We aren't losers or winners, we just learn how
to transform our own losses and create exchanges.
